What kinds of friends do you have?
- I have friends who meet me at Starbucks and don’t care if I show up with wet hair and no makeup.
- I have friends who tell me when it’s time to do my hair and put on makeup.
- One of my friends lives in another country and we’ve only met face-to-face once.
- A friend of mine has seen me, and aided me, during my absolute lowest points on my health journey, and she still loves me despite witnessing incredibly gross things.
- Multiple friends just came and sat with me after a yucky surgery last year… just sat with me.
- My husband and I have amazing friends who have moved to follow one of their dreams, yet we pick right back up where we left off every time we see them.
- I am celebrating 25 years of friendship with one of my friends this Saturday, and she could probably still beat me in the original Super Mario Brothers.
- One of my friends constantly reminds me to pray for myself. And there’s no sneaking by this friend, she is a Major Pain in the A…. Accountability department. Which I happen to need.
- I have a group of friends who would join me in singing the National Anthem in just about any elevator with no questions asked, then when the doors open they would proceed as though nothing happened.
- I have a group of friends with whom I vacation twice a year for a weekend of sewing and crafting… and LAUGHING.
- Ihaveafriendwhotextswithmelikethisandweboththinkit’shilarious. Andwearebothgrownups. Sorta.
- I have friends who understand chronic illness because they too are suffering.
- A friend of mine prayed for my salvation for YEARS, and I didn’t even know she was doing it!
What do all of these people have in common? They are my friends because we encourage each other.
It’s a two-way street.
It’s give and take.
It’s cards in the mail with stupid humor on them that make us laugh.
It’s patience and growth.
It’s tears and laughter.
It’s making mistakes.
It’s trips to the ER.
It’s a WHOLE lot of inside jokes.
It’s caring for each other’s children.
It’s illness and death, and new life and new loves.
It’s the excitement of new things and the comfort of the old things.
It’s praying together and urging each other to make wise decisions instead of running away when life gets tough.
It’s meals and coffee, cake and ice cream… and drinks from Sonic (rolling my eyes — you know who you are!)
Friendship is all of these things and more.
Are you struggling with your friendships? I urge you to seek out what you can do to strengthen those relationships. Is it time for forgiveness or confessions? Is it time to pick up the slack because your friends are going through incredibly difficult times? Is it time to ask for help because you feel like you’re drowning?
All relationships are built on honesty. I have screwed that up many many times in the past because I was too proud to admit I was hurt or frustrated. Don’t be that person. It won’t work out well for you in the end. I have lost friendships over my pride and a loss of words is no crutch to lean on. It will crumble.
Pray about it.
Be honest and share your feelings.
Or stand up and pick up the slack because you adore your friends who are hurting.
What stumbling block do you see resurfacing again and again in your friendships?
What are you going to do about it?