Well… it happened again.
The bitter-Betty in me came out.
I know, we’ve had this discussion before. And yes, I know better. And I know God created us all different. And I know that I don’t have to look like someone else to be valued and to feel good about myself. AND, I know that I could make better food choices. And I know that I am wonderfully made … and I know that I could … blah blah blah.
So if I know all of this, why does Betty still come visit? She’s never invited, she just shows up! She typically shows up when I’m struggling through some pain and know it’s time to sit my rear down to rest. I feel guilty sitting down, and she knows that. I don’t want to sit down, and Betty knows that too.
I want to volunteer at my son’s school and go have lunch with him. I want to make cute things off Pinterest for my front door or trim up my flowers and bushes around the house. I want to make my house look nice and work on curtains for another room. I want to go for a run. I want to go out and have lunch with friends. I want to go to all of the birthday parties and baby showers and dinners we are invited to. I want to go meet at the park with other parents so our kids can run around and play.
But I know that I should be resting.
So I “rest.”
And feel bitter.
Enter Betty, stage right: Betty points out all the people who take for granted all of those things that I WANT to do. She will show me who is skinny. She will show me who can run marathons. She will remind me who the “cool moms” are. She will want me to look at Facebook so that I can compare all of my shortcomings to other people’s strengths, and she will want me to zoom in on all of the pictures from parties or lunches that I couldn’t attend. Her favorite thing to do is remind me that I don’t get invited to many things anymore. Ooooo, she loves that one! It’s a real zinger and she knows it.
Don’t be impressed with your own wisdom. Instead, fear the Lord and turn away from evil. then you will have healing for your body and strength for your bones. Proverbs 3:7-8 NLT
- My own wisdom: all the things I know
- Turn away from evil: stewing and bitterness – and for crying out loud, turn away from BETTY!
- Healing for my body: stop stewing = true resting = healing for my body
- Strength for my bones: my bones are my framework, if my framework is stronger I’m less likely to crumble under pressure
My darling husband recently reminded me that it was much much harder for me to have to say “no” to the lunches, and showers, and parties, and ladies nights out than it is for me to not be invited to many anymore. Because the truth is, packing my schedule full of all of those things isn’t healthy for me. It will run me into the ground and my immune system will tank. And I know this. (reference wisdom bullet point above)
I have some spectacular friends who remind me gently to take some things off my schedule. And I am so appreciative of that. Because they help me do something that I sometimes struggle to do on my own.
I struggle to make the right choice.
It’s time to start choosing the path on which Betty is NOT standing with her coffee cup in-hand, eager to gossip and compare me to other people in my life. Betty isn’t healthy for me. And she isn’t healthy for you either.
Take a hike, Betty. You wear me out.